Guh I'm frustrated and this is going to be a little bit a vent. While we weren't talking, he decided that because I hadn't contacted him that I'd ended it. So when we finally talk on the phone he had the mindset that this is a "we'll still be friends" talk and I was blown away by this. I w...

Far east like Livermore. Weh. Just as expensive to live as all the rest of it, though!

I accepted the offer! So I'll be living back in the bay area again this summer (far east bay though), and I'm so excited! It pays more in a month (pretax) than I earned in entire years tutoring math at a JC...

viscomica wrote:Thanks! Thought they kinda looked a bit vintage (maybe I'm totally wrong though haha)

Honestly no idea if they're vintage haha but I looove the pop of color, and I just noticed that your nails match! So stylish, so jealous.

Those shoes are amazing! o.o

This is not really a personal win, but, the Sharks are 2-0 in first round of the playoffs! I'm very excited! On a personal win, I got the email to schedule the phone call to hear the details of the formal offer for a super awesome internship for the summer, in a field/place that takes a lot of grads...

Small update: 6 days of not talking, I asked him if we were going to speak again. It took me that long for my anger to subside, or I suppose more accurately, for missing him to outweigh being angry. I'm still pretty deeply offended by the implications of what he said, but the time has given me the c...

Thank you for your perspective. Thinking about it, I don't believe I shut it down, but I tried to convey, though yes I was still mad, how it upset me. Thing is, it's always impact that matters. Saying intent matters more trivializes the feelings and experiences of those who are hurt. With this is in...

Thanks Avistew. The thing is everything else has actually been great. We had a minor argument brought on by preparing for hosting a big party last weekend, but that, I felt, was resolved. It was the demeaning way in which he said I had to have my work done, like I'm a child, that has me angry, still...

In my usual pattern, I am back because I'm not feeling great. This is about half a vent, half a little advice request. So I've been dating the gentleman we will call B since mid-December. It's been going great! I've met all his friends, met his family, everyone apparently likes me, I get along with ...

Good news! I have an advisor, officially! Not-good-but-not-bad news: the topic I want to research basically never gets funding! So we'll have to do a lot of brainstorming on what to write grant proposals for for my potential PhD work. If none of them get accepted though... :/

Thank you, Fay and Dutch guy. The owner of the cat called me this morning, and she doesn't blame me. She said his name was John Wayne, and that he was a wild spirit, and she always worried something like this would happen, but she knows that I would have stopped if I could have. It's given me a sens...

Content warning for animal death. I hit a cat with my car last night. It's tearing me up. I didn't have time to take my foot off the gas, it was so fast. I wasn't speeding or anything and I feel so guilty. I have two cats of my own, indoor only, and the fact that I've taken someone&#...

As someone who tried an SSRI and had it not work out, my side effects were so extreme and so immediate that my doc pulled me off in ten days. But! There are other options! I went on a selective Dopamine reuptake inhibitor, bupropion (name brand Wellbutrin), and it was amazing for me. The first coupl...

I thought I'd bump with a little update: things have been going great, we've been spending the night every weekend this quarter with some dates before NYE, and even though we can't see each other this weekend, he's already got ideas going for the president's day long weekend. I know it's still very ...

Tomorrow night is date night. :3 Since he cooked on the first date, I'm cooking for this one. Insalata caprese, homemade spinach and chicken ravioli in brown butter sauce, and of course bread and balsamic. (Also secret dessert, I made chocolate mousse, it's in the fridge now.) And he's going to make...

On the "not all men" sentiment, clearly, that's true. Whatever you're responding to with "but not all men", yes, you're right. But you should know that it's more like "but it could be any man ". Any man you know or don't know. For me personally, I've been conditioned to...

Thanks y'all! I have the fattest lip right now, but I love it! I should've done this sooner!

Thanks! To be honest, I'm in grad school, and this could mess up my chances in getting the advisor I want, but y'know what, metal in my face doesn't affect my ability to do the work, which they've already seen by my admittance and my first quarter. So anyone who's going to judge me on this can go to...

I have to say that knowing that a man is angry - especially if he is larger than me - terrifies me. Even if I know he is not angry at me. Because I'm terrified that suddenly that anger will be directed at me. This is also especially distressing when it's a man I know that is always patient and gentl...

Hey y'all.



I did a thing

Actually, I'll agree with that. I think I enjoyed TFA more than any of the OT as well. And part of that is the experience. Long before I saw the trilogy, I had background knowledge of how they went, and I saw them the first time at age 10 or so. I remember liking them, and watching them again before...

So I marathoned the despec versions of the trilogy last night, and saw TFA this morning. I noticed the "retelling" as it were as well, but really like that they did that. It establishes the new kids in a familiar frame. Unfortunately the moment Han stepped on that walkway I was like "...

Aw, Avistew that's really awesome!

And thanks y'all! We have a second date planned, dinner on either Tuesday or Wednesday night. There's kind of a sense of trying to cram things in before my quarter starts on the 4th, because I'll be pretty busy after that. We'll see what we manage.

Since this seems to have become "betsy's dating life: the thread". It was definitely a date. There were makeouts. I think a second is on the horizon. I really like this guy. It was a great night. It was rather cute because we both admitted we weren't totally sure it was a date until basica...