Postby Rhynome » 22 Mar 2006, 14:20
Can I just state my justification for this, considering it's pretty much my fault all this started?
I don't care [greatly] what people say, I have a problem with the intention behind it. If I'm joking with someone that knows it's a joke, can take it and will joke back then sure. I won't say it infront of other people who don't know for fear of offending them, maybe a passing comment with a friend but not a large statement. It's about the intention; I was in a restaurant and someone said 'Look on the bright side, at least he's not Black.' He said it loudly, obnoxiously and obviously without any regard as to who was in the restaurant, none of our party was black but it was still offensive. It was offensive because it was obvious he wasn't joking.
I do care to an extent what people say, but I'm trying to get rid of that, I still have a barrier it's just alot more lax than other people's it seems. I'm all up for a liberal view on ethnicity, but not liberal just as in positive discrimination and no discrimination but liberal as in 'say what you want as long as you don't mean any harm.' What I really care about is how they mean it, and that is something that can be identified. Though often it's just so much better to avoid conflict than fuel it, you're not going to change their mind just ignore them, lie low, hope they shut up. Also bear in mind that when people are drunk they say things they would usually realise they shouldn't, even if they are their views, or things that they don't really mean at all. Often they say them a bit too loudly; I often [always] try to say it quietly when others are present.
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