Avistew wrote:I'm really enjoying the discussion so far.
Lone bard, I just want to point out that the people don't have to like the same things you do, certainly not. I like sharing things with people I love, so I enjoy it when someone either likes something I do, or is willing to give it a try so I can share it with him.
But I also like having separated interests. That doesn't mean they won't be showcased.
Matt, I see where you're coming from, and it makes sense, but I don't think I'd feel the same way. I think I'd want to know right away if someone is going to make these kind of assumptions about me because I like a kid's show, so that I can make sure not to date them. Really, to me these things are more like screening, anyone who is put off by what's make me me isn't someone I would want to associate with on that level anyways.
I guess I just see these things as quirks, and quirks are cool. Theyre what make people individuals and unique and people you start being interested in. But I suppose there is a difference between not hiding it and advertising it, too.
People make snap judgements and assumptions based on their preconceptions. I do, you do, the girl in accounting does.
Fact of life. This doesn't make them shallow, or a bad person. It makes them human beings.
This is why they say it's important to make a good first impression.
If you simply write off every person who would make a negative assumption about you, you're writing off a huge portion of the possible dating pool - and a great many of those would have been a great fit if introduced to you in the right way.
You don't have to bring up your authentic shrunken head collection on the first date, and any person who might be put off by your collection in the short term, could actually be someone who'd really like you once they figured it out.
-m