The Big Relationship Thread

[Metcarfre]

I had a very nice TWO MARRIED COUPLES HAVIN' LUNCH date today. That was fun. Toad-in-the-hole! (Not a euphemism)

[TheRocket]

I wish we had more married couple friends. The ones we do have live kinda far. All the other ones we seem to meet are swingers. THERE ARE A LOT OF SWINGERS HERE HOLY SHIT.

[Matt]

I have arranged to go do a thing with a girl. A thing that some people might tend to describe as "a date".

I don't know that it IS "a date". But I have arranged it none the less, and I guess we'll find out.

-m

[Brad]

Matt.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oUa2atNxhfg

[Brad]

You're money.

[Metcarfre]

All our friends are married couples now. We're awesome/lame like that. My wife is soopor excited for this weekend, she's having 'married girls get away from their hubbies for dessert and drinks' night out for her berfday.

I'm skiing, then Skyrimming.

[Matt]

All our friends are married couples now.

Virtually none of my friends are married yet.

THANK CHRIST.

-m

[Metcarfre]

Yeah, worst thing ever, right?

[Matt]

I think yo umisunderstand. I have no problem with being married, I'd like to get there myself at some point - however - going through a third-life crisis of "OHGODI'MNEARLY30ANDSTILLAMANCHILDANDSINGLEANDI'MDOIGNLIFEWRONGOHJUSUSWHYAMISOBADATTHIS" such as I am, if I had to be dealing with the fact that all my friends were getting married too, I'd feel even more left behind.


-m

[Metcarfre]

Oh, I get it.

...matrimony-hater.

[Avistew]

I don't think I know anyone who is married from my generation. Well except for me and my ex. In short, I don't have any married couple friends. I do have couple friends though, and for double dating purposes that's really the same thing.

@Rocket: are all of the swingers you meet forceful? I would expect some of them to be willing to leave you alone in the sexual sense and be friends. That said it's true some people can't take no for an answer.

[Fezzul]

No one my age is married yet, at least from my friend background. One was engaged for a while, but that didn't last.

In other news, a girl who is very sweet got back together with the douche of a boyfriend who left her, today. World keeps on spinning, but then again, I have now figured out a secret cheat code for getting free tickets to broadway shows, so I'm going to try that card next in my dating life...

[Dutch guy]

I have arranged to go do a thing with a girl. A thing that some people might tend to describe as "a date".

I don't know that it IS "a date". But I have arranged it none the less, and I guess we'll find out.

-m

I think you guys made a video about that at some point

[Geoff_B]

@Matt That about describes me for the last four years. However I can no longer claim to be "nearly 30"

[Cybertrash]

I have arranged to go do a thing with a girl. A thing that some people might tend to describe as "a date".

I don't know that it IS "a date". But I have arranged it none the less, and I guess we'll find out.

-m

I think you guys made a video about that at some point

So the lesson is: Be Jer?

[Darkobra]

So my girlfriend over-thinks and panics exactly as much as I do about pretty much the same things!

I mean my internet dies at night at about the time we usually depart and she thinks "He left me without saying I love you! Or even goodnight! Something's wrong!" and starts panicking until I get back.

And I used to worry she wasn't in the mood to talk to me when she turned her computer on, went out and Skype auto-signed in. Or that I had done something wrong.

And then we worry and panic and the next day we find out we're being idiots and worrying over nothing!

Something we didn't know the other did until we talked about it a few days ago. Sometimes it's amazing how similar we are. I still can't believe it's been 1 year 5 months!

[Lord Chrusher]

I think yo umisunderstand. I have no problem with being married, I'd like to get there myself at some point - however - going through a third-life crisis of "OHGODI'MNEARLY30ANDSTILLAMANCHILDANDSINGLEANDI'MDOIGNLIFEWRONGOHJUSUSWHYAMISOBADATTHIS" such as I am, if I had to be dealing with the fact that all my friends were getting married too, I'd feel even more left behind.


-m

Quite your wining Matt. I have never been in a relationship and I am a virgin despite being only three years younger than you. Also a rising percentage of my friends are married.

[Lyinginbedmon]

Doesn't mean Matt has to be happy and cheerful about the situation.

[Avistew]

Yeah. This isn't a competition with only the worst off person allowed to wish the situation was different. Matt should feel free to share his thoughts and feelings since that's what the thread is for. And it really didn't feel like whining to me.

[Lyinginbedmon]

On a similar note, my current romantic situation (or pseudo-lack thereof) is certainly not improved by all the Valentine's Day stuff popping up more than two weeks ahead of the day itself.

[Matt]

It wasn't whining. I feel left behind in life sometimes. I'm also working towards fixing that. I'm working on a graduate school application, I'm going ona date... thing, I'm not just sitting here moping about it.

But it's still a thing that I feel, and I feel justified feeeling it.

-m

[Avistew]

Ah, yeah. When I was single I didn't really mind, but that's mostly because I was in France, which isn't all "OMG one special day is over, let's start decorating for the next one!"
So it would really only be the day itself with people being all romantic and stuff. But that has never been too bad for me, it always made me happy more than anything.

Now I'm in the US. And oh my god is it annoying to see all that stuff all around. And I'm not even single anymore. So yeah, I can imagine.
On the plus side, cheap chocolate once the day has passed!

[auberginequeen]

Valentine's Day is complete bullshit.

Seriously. If you really love someone you shouldn't need a specific day to express it. You should express it in your own ways every day (even if those ways are quite subtle), and if you want to give the object of your affection a nice present, why not do it on a random day? I think it demonstrates greater forethought and caring than being prompted to do so by some artificially constructed ~day of love~.

People who are in love are just that... in love. It's not as though they only express it on Valentine's Day. The only consequence of Feb. 14th that I see is a bunch of single people who are reminded that not only are they currently single, but that they should feel miserable and ashamed about it too. I simply cannot support a holiday essentially designed to sell candy and jewellery and to make a good portion of the population feel like shit.

Fuck Valentine's Day.

[Avistew]

Yeah, it's much better to have a day specific to you than one everyone follows. That's what anniversaries are for, so you can celebrate you love with a special occasion without it being rubbed into everyone's faces or without everyone doing it the same day (so you can go to a nice restaurant or something).

I still think having special days is good. Sure you love each other every day, but you're also alive every day and yet we celebrate birthdays.
This being said I don't boycott Valentine's Day. I ordered Oglaf book One for Sean. But I don't see why I'd have to celebrate it by buying specific V-Day stuff.

Also it's a week before my birthday, so it's a way for me to give him a gift when I know I'm getting one soon.

[LogicSword]

I'm really looking forward to Valentine's Day this year.

The Mass Effect 3 demo gets released then