The Big Relationship Thread

[Avistew]

Yes, my boyfriend had the same reaction. I could very well be too trusting (and I did realise afterwards that he knows where I live now) but I guess at the time I thought, if he was dangerous, he would have hurt me already.

The phone booth thing was so he didn't call me afterwards, because that would be annoying. Nothing to do with him figuring out where I live.

The door downstairs is locked and so is my door upstairs, and I'll keep working out so I can defend myself if something happens. I'm just terrible at mistrusting people. I have been lucky enough that it never has come back to haunt me, but I'll make sure to be careful so that everyone here (as well as Sean) can rest more easily.

I also directed you to this thread before realising you had already posted in it. Oops.

[Keab42]

Finally got a reply on a dating site, sent a response back answering her questions but forgot to include any new ones to push the conversation forward.

Also it took me nearly 3 hours to draft the response.

Why am I so crap at talking to people?

[The Jester]

Actually, I'd say that taking three hours to reply is pretty good. It takes a a long time to craft a good response to an e-mail or a letter. It's a good sign. I just hope she is willing to spend the time on a response of her own; because that's the real indicator of how into you she is.

[PlasmaCow]

Also it took me nearly 3 hours to draft the response.

I feel you man. I've been getting some more responses to my messages to women on okcupid lately. Doesn't really make any sense whether long or short messages as to what gets any further replies though =/
In some cases I'll have three or four back-and-forth exchanges that're a couple paragraphs each - then nada.

[Lyinginbedmon]

Bereft of any available social networks within which to discern any possible romantic candidates (yes yes, or any candidates for anything whatsoever as well), I too have been plodding along on a dating website, thus far to no avail. I suspect largely because when they turn up in the listings they don't say how long ago they last logged in.

[Keab42]

eeep! she replied. I wasn't prepared for writing a 3rd message...

[Avistew]

Haha, scared she wasn't going to answer, and now scared because she did. Aren't emotions fun?

I keep wanting to let my crush know that I have a crush on him, but I don't know how to go about it without making things awkward. In my experience, I start too subtle, increase the intensity thinking the person will get it in the end, and end up with a restraining order out of the blue, because the guy wanted me to stop hitting on him but never let me know.
So obviously I'm doing things wrong, and any advice would be appreciated. He's a really good friend and I don't want to lose him, but I know if I keep bottling it in it will come out in the worst way possible instead of being casual and without pressure.

...This is probably the wrong place to ask for advice, I realise. Oh well. I'll take any you have to give either way.

[Lyinginbedmon]

eeep! she replied. I wasn't prepared for writing a 3rd message...

Sir, the degree of your fortune beside my own lack thereof makes this startled response somewhat irritating.

Seriously, gift horse dude.

[gcninja]

So after talking and with her leaving on sunday, we talked about some other guys who liked her and it being a one way road for them. I asked if it was the same for me and she said yes, "but not 100% as in china they 'don't condemn a man 100%'". So yeah, theres that. Not sure how to deal with it.
She still plans to come back next year and/or I go to Taiwan. Maybe after I improve my physical and self image I'll have a better chance.... in hell :\

[Elomin Sha]

Maybe after I improve my physical and self image I'll have a better chance.... in hell :\

What is it with you people using my home for squatting and lamenting of your troubles? I'm trying to arrange thistles here!

[Lyinginbedmon]

That moment when you realise a dating site is now only showing you people you've already rejected...

[Fezzul]

Don't you hate it when you make the decision to ask a girl out, and then all of a sudden they disappear and are nowhere to be found? Now I have to wait till after the long weekend... Monkey-trumpets.

[Danzama]

I've finally managed to ask a cute guy who I've been staying up with tim three o'clock for the past few nights if he wanted to meet up for coffee.

Admittedly I asked him just before he was going to bed, so he said "yeah, I'll think about it night x" I hope that's a good sign.

Edit: Danny has a date.

[Geoff_B]

Last week on my trip there was a really pretty girl in the group. I didn't talk to her properly until about halfway through the week, not because I was shy or anything but because there were about 35 other people and she seemed to be fairly quiet anyway so I kind of didn't notice her at first. Then when I finally (I'm ashamed to say) got round to talking to her she was really friendly, even prettier up close, and didn't treat me like some hideous hairy troll (happens more often than you'd think unfortunately). So me, her and a couple of other people started hanging out a bit. Then of course the trip was over and I'm kicking myself for not talking to her sooner.

I've got her facebook and email but she's not the sort of person who spends most of her life online (doesn't say much about me does it!) so opportunitiess to talk to her are not very frequent. I'm hoping to see her in a month's time at a reunion for the trip.

She lives in Yorkshire so it wouldn't be too much of a hassle to visit but, as seems to be very often the case, it's finding the time to do so.

Any thoughts/wishes/prayers/mojo/cheese you can send my way would be very much appreciated. I'd really like to become good friends with her even if a proper relationship isn't an option.

[Fezzul]

Asked a girl out, she said yes.

Good god, what have I done?

[Avistew]

Grats

[Elomin Sha]

Asked a girl out, she said yes.

Good god, what have I done?

You have doomed us all.
REPENT!
Oblivion is at hand.

[Avistew]

So I told the guy I liked that I would like to hang out with him once I'm back in the US.
It seemed bold and all at the time, almost like asking him out. Now it seems like something you'd tell a friend anyways.
Oh well. He said he hoped we'd be able to, so there is that.

[JustAName]

I need to find a place to hide... someone... so that the authorities won't deport him. >.> Also, a place to keep him when I kidnap him, 'cuz he still thinks he's going home in a few hours.

[JustAName]

Guys how do I stop crying?

[Deedles]

*hugs Fay tightly*

[LogicSword]

*hugs* to Fayili

[goat]

Guys how do I stop crying?

Caulk.

[Geoff_B]

Stop peeling onions *hugs*

[The Jester]

Guys how do I stop crying?

But seriously, though; *cuddles*.