The Sex Thread

[auberginequeen]

on a more serious note, ladies, when you are kissing a guy, clothes on and all of that stuff, nothing too serious, do you ever let your hands wonder around in the same way as guys do? Because I've never had this happen to me and I kinda wish it would. guys wanna be groped as well

As a guy, I encourage this!

I've groped men. Everywhere. It's fun.

But then again I'm not sure if I'm really representative of the standard.

As for penises ... They always make me lol. The male form is so attractive except for that floppy extension which is entirely the wrong shade compared to the rest of their body and looks like it was affixed to them as an afterthought.

But I still think they're pretty awesome. They've never intimidated me.



I wish I could offer Lying some advice, but honestly I've got nothing.

[madrak_the_red]

About penises: I kind of don't get the intimidating factor either, but I realise I'm not your average female. I love penises. The first times I saw them and played with them I thought they were the most wonderful thing ever. My first sexual experience, I took off the guys pants and just started blowing him instinctively, and honestly I had NO clue beforehand that I had any interest in giving oral sex, but just seeing it I wanted it in my mouth.

...


...crosses legs

[Avistew]

About groping, it depends. Less so in public, moreso in private. And if I'm feeling more tender I'm going to be more about caressing the hair and face and neck, and if I'm more frisky then I'd caress the torso, hips and butt, and if I'm very frisky then I'll caress the front too, although I'll do it with my thigh before I do it with my hand.

[Elomin Sha]

just started blowing him instinctively

People aren't balloons.....unless they're one of those people-shaped balloon things. But having a valve there, wouldn't that be silly? what you can take from this, PEOPLE ARE NOT BALLOONS!

About groping, it depends. Less so in public, moreso in private. And if I'm feeling more tender I'm going to be more about caressing the hair and face and neck, and if I'm more frisky then I'd caress the torso, hips and butt, and if I'm very frisky then I'll caress the front too, although I'll do it with my thigh before I do it with my hand.

Coming from me this is going to sound weird. Why do people like being touched or want to touch others, unless it's with a fifty-foot barge pole covered in fire.

[Lyinginbedmon]

Coming from you?

[TheRocket]

Only skeevy gold digging girls go after guys more than 3 years their senior.

I can't tell if you're being sarcastic (probably because I don't know you enough )

Exactly.

[Fezzul]

I'm with team Grope.

[Elomin Sha]

Coming from you?

I was going through one train of thought and then it quickly changed. Basically it's strange that I'm taking an interest in a thing that I don't like.


Please note I do not want to be groped.

[JustAName]

I'mma answer you seriously, just because. People like to feel valued by others, and cared for, and one of the closest and most meaningful ways to do that, to our psyches, is physical contact. Physical contact shows that someone is worth touching, and that you care about them enough to touch them. That's the basis of hugs. Being close to another person and embracing them. Sexual contact takes that further, showing the other person that you are attracted to them and that you value them enough to want to be completely naked with them and do nasty things, besides the inherent pleasure in said nasty things.

[PlasmaCow]

Please note I do not want to be groped.

Noted.

Coming from me this is going to sound weird. Why do people like being touched or want to touch others, unless it's with a fifty-foot barge pole covered in fire.

Physical intimacy is just something most people enjoy experiencing, whether or not it's directly related to sex, I don't think there's really a "big thing" to be made of it.

[TheRocket]

On the subject of penises - I have never felt intimidated by them.. I do prefer the look of some over others, but I won't go further into that because I pretty much had half the forum yell at me over it. I enjoy the look and feel of my husband's and am extremely attracted to his nether regions. So much that we can just be watching tv and I will feel the need to play with it. I REALLY like his bits.

On the subject of groping, I always grop him when kissing. Privately and sometimes publicly behind people's backs When kissing I always run my hand over his back, neck, chest, hair, arms or squeeze his bum or let my hands wander to the front of the pants. I didn't actually know there were girls that just sat still while kissing a guy, so that is news to me.

[JustAName]

Hey, I don't! I am well over my intimidation by now, it was just at first.

[TheRocket]

I'm not saying you do? In fact I wasn't aiming my responses at you in any way...? They are two seperate responses to two seperate things. I said I didn't know there were girls who just sat while kissing - in response to the person who asked the question if girls hands wander like guys do while kissing. That wasn't really tied in to my other response about the penis intimidation discussion that Lying started.

[Duckay]

I don't know, I think there is a bit of a middle-ground. Often I don't let my hands "wander" so much as work on a particular spot for a while (like the back of the head) because my guy really likes head massage. And that's not really what I'd normally consider groping/wandering hands.

As for the penises thing... if I think about it too much, I start to feel really inadequate or like there's something wrong with me, because I do feel like I'm kind of substandard at operating penises, and I think the female body is so much more fun and sensible. (Maybe that's just because I've got one, though, and so figure I know exactly how they work.) I'm just glad that I've got a partner who's patient with me, because if I'm going to be doing it with a penis, I need a patient man attached to it.

[TheRocket]

I agree with the middle ground thing. I was in a rush typing before because I was in the middle of something.. but that's what I was trying to convey with hair, arms, chest, neck thing... There are sensual and soft moments and grabby package moments. I love both.

[Duckay]

Indeed. And it would get very dull if every kiss was package-grab time.

[TheRocket]

I just had a funny visual in my head of all these couples kissing and the girls just grabbing packages like a robot.

... I'm sure it's a fetish somewhere and someone on this forum jsut got a boner.

[JustAName]

I really need to stop reading this thread, at least for the next 2-3 months. :/

[Elomin Sha]

I just had a funny visual in my head of all these couples kissing and the girls just grabbing packages like a robot.

... I'm sure it's a fetish somewhere and someone on this forum jsut got a boner.

I'm sure Master Gunner has a fetish for that somewhere.

[Lyinginbedmon]

Well I think we're at least making progress, she didn't turn away in disgust and actually continued our conversation while I was changing for bed last night.

Baby steps I guess.

[iamafish]

clearly i'm kissing the wrong people

to be slightly more clear on my original point; I tend to find that women focus on the head/face, possibly the back, or the crotch. There's nothing wrong with that, but there are other parts too! I've really enjoyed it when women have started touching other parts of me, even arms and shoulder (i'm pretty muscly in those areas) and particularly the arse. It seems odd to me that women don't do this more, especially given that guys almost always do it to them.

As for why - it's largely a feeling of being appreciated. I want women to gain enjoyment from my body, so I like it when they touch me. I like being appreciated in that way.

aaaaand that felt fucking weird to type...

[Duckay]

to be slightly more clear on my original point; I tend to find that women focus on the head/face, possibly the back, or the crotch. There's nothing wrong with that, but there are other parts too! I've really enjoyed it when women have started touching other parts of me, even arms and shoulder (i'm pretty muscly in those areas) and particularly the arse.

Apologies to JackSlack for this.

If I was kissing a guy with great arms/shoulders, pretty sure I couldn't keep my hands off them...

[Avistew]

About why you'd like touching/being touched, I think it's because contact is a form of communication too. Some people like it more than others, but those for whom it's important can really need it and feel unappreciated if they don't get it.
It's a bit like some people need to be told "I love you" all the time while some others are fine never hearing it. In the end I think it comes down to feeling valued.

As far as touching non-sexual areas (so, for instance the arms and shoulders rather than the crotch right away) I think it's the message of "I love all of you" while having only one's sexual bits grabbed can feel like "I like you for sexual reasons".

Now without trying to go all psychologist about it, it's true that a lot of people like getting their whole body stimulated and find it very pleasurable and arousing (although it doesn't need to lead to sex).
I think their might be this preconception that it's a "girl" think and that guys only care about their penises, which is unfortunate.

[Duckay]

That is pretty true in my experience; making assumptions about what you think the other person will like is usually a pretty good way to leave one or both of you unfulfilled. The best way to solve the problem is just to talk about it.

And it is totally true that different people like different amounts, and kinds, of touching. And any other displays of affection and intimacy, for that matter. Different strokes, and all. (Haha, unintentional puns.)

[TheRocket]

clearly i'm kissing the wrong people

to be slightly more clear on my original point; I tend to find that women focus on the head/face, possibly the back, or the crotch. There's nothing wrong with that, but there are other parts too! I've really enjoyed it when women have started touching other parts of me, even arms and shoulder (i'm pretty muscly in those areas) and particularly the arse. It seems odd to me that women don't do this more, especially given that guys almost always do it to them.

As for why - it's largely a feeling of being appreciated. I want women to gain enjoyment from my body, so I like it when they touch me. I like being appreciated in that way.

aaaaand that felt fucking weird to type...

Maybe it has something to do with the stigma that guys don't want you anywhere near their asshole, so they avoid it? I don't know... I have always grabbed Wraiths ass because he has a fantastic ass. Also, he's so tall that pretty much his ass is at arm resting level for me. Next time try leading her hands that way