The Sex Thread

[goat]

I'm arguing against being self conscious. I mean, if your partner really wants to give you oral, and telling them "it might be a bit unpleasant down there" hasn't dissuaded them, you have done your duty. Sit back and enjoy the head.

[Alja-Markir]

~Alja~

[Avistew]

I'm arguing against being self conscious. I mean, if your partner really wants to give you oral, and telling them "it might be a bit unpleasant down there" hasn't dissuaded them, you have done your duty. Sit back and enjoy the head.

I still disagree that the person should force themselves if they think it's gross. If my boyfriend wanted to lick me clean after I use the bathroom, no amount of "it's fine, I want to" would convince me that it isn't disgusting, and I would be less attracted to him afterwards, because I'm not into that.
So if he tells me he finds something disgusting, I don't do it. It's a matter of respect. And if you think he shouldn't find it disgusting, well it doesn't change the fact that he does.

[WBAGNR]

Much.Better.

[Digital Dolphin]

My shibari lessons will be starting in April. Yay!!

[Avistew]

Grats, dolphin! Hope you'll be having a lot of fun.

Mmh, I guess I extent the same sentiment to WBAGNR as well?

[WBAGNR]

Yeah...it turns out that not having alone time for a week makes it a lot easier to arrive when your partner does...who knew?

[iamafish]

just got back from spending a few days at my GF's after over a week of separation and i can attest to that. oooft, i'm bloody exhausted (from all the walking around London, obviously...)

[Avistew]

It's even more-so if you do masturbate but stop before the end. Actually with hat trick, you don't have to stop for a whole week, way less time is required. Of course some guys enjoy it and some hate it so pick whichever works best for you.
(To my knowledge that trick doesn't actually work for females).

[BlitzRunner27]

I've always been rather odd in that I last significantly longer than my partners. Like, fifteen minutes to (in the worst case scenario that happened one evening) a full hour longer. There's most likely some sort of bizarre psychological problem going on, but hot damn is it annoying -_-

I could very well go down as the only man in history who needs to work on "arriving" -faster-.

(Yes I know I'm not the only man in history who has been like this it was a joke)

[tamaness]

I've always been rather odd in that I last significantly longer than my partners. Like, fifteen minutes to (in the worst case scenario that happened one evening) a full hour longer. There's most likely some sort of bizarre psychological problem going on, but hot damn is it annoying -_-

I could very well go down as the only man in history who needs to work on "arriving" -faster-.

(Yes I know I'm not the only man in history who has been like this it was a joke)

I feel your pain, dude.

[Avistew]

Try reading a bit earlier in this thread, we addressed it a little, you might find some advice that's relevant to you. It's more common that you'd think from popular culture.

[BlitzRunner27]

Try reading a bit earlier in this thread, we addressed it a little, you might find some advice that's relevant to you. It's more common that you'd think from popular culture.

Oh goodness me. That's a lot of thread. I'll have to look through that and do some research.


....tomorrow >_>

At any rate, it's good to know I'm not alone

[tamaness]

It's in the most recent 20 or so pages, if it's the post I'm thinking of.

Still, the whole thing makes sexytimes kind of inconvenient.

[BlitzRunner27]

So, um...

Er...

I had sex with my boyfriend tonight for the first time. This is a colossal step for me, as the last sexual contact I had with another man was when I was raped back in sixth grade, and my last "sexytimes" in general was back when I was still with my abusive ex-girlfriend. I've been extremely apprehensive about this for years now, but I decided I was ready to move on. So we went for it, and as my first time where I've both completely consented to the sex and been completely honest with my own gender preferences, I think I'm OK with it. Still a little shaky, but that'll pass with time I hope.

And now if you'll excuse me, I need a cold drink and an armchair so I can reflect on what just happened.

[PlasmaCow]

not quite sure why you've used spoiler tags Blitz, but congrats for being able to move on with your life.

[Deedles]

Glad that you've found someone who you feel so secure with that you could take that step and help yourself heal and move on.

It's strong of you, keep it up. =]

[Psyclone]

That's awesome, Blitz. I hope this is a step to fully accepting yourself.

[aeric90]

So while I know you're still processing things I have to ask; did you enjoy yourself and did you finish in roughly the time you would have liked to?

[BlitzRunner27]

not quite sure why you've used spoiler tags

I used spoiler tags because it's not particularly easy for me to share things like that (opening up is one of the things I'm working on), and using the spoiler tags at least gave me the feeling of some control as opposed to just typing it out normally. Almost like a whisper would do, I suppose?

So while I know you're still processing things I have to ask; did you enjoy yourself and did you finish in roughly the time you would have liked to?

As a matter of fact I both enjoyed it and finished in what I would consider a reasonable time. I think my problem must have had a lot to do with who I was with. In hindsight, it's hard to get off when you're both un-attracted to and terrified of your partner. With my boyfriend last night it was... well, without making anyone uncomfortable with too much detail, It was absolutely amazing. Completely different than any of my previous experiences.

[Digital Dolphin]

without making anyone uncomfortable with too much detail...

I don't think TMI exists here (beyond a poster's own comfort levels I mean)

And congrats btw, would that we all be as happy and satisfied!

[aeric90]

Agreed. As long as you want to discus it I don't think there'd be much of a problem in this thread. As long as it's not too out there... or illegal... or involves avocados.

[Keab42]

I think the marmite-iguana porn is still banned in some states.

[theDreamer]

Avocados are beautiful things!

[Metcarfre]

They ARE the most nutritive vegetable.