Cybren wrote:Matt wrote:Cybren wrote:You're claiming in one breath that people "refuse to see their own behaviors", and in another, that you don't want to make judgments on peoples sexuality. There seems to be a contradiction in play.
you know you are able to make relatively general statements about human psychology while attempting not to categorize people based on specific sexual behaviors, right?
These things are not at all contradictory.
Except he was stating that some people were in self denial (refusing to whatever blah blah) because they perform specific acts, but then didn't wish to categorize any act later because he doesn't want to pigeonhole people for them.
If you do not see a dissonance you are a forgurgo
The statement "people often refuse to see their own behavior" is a statement on the psychology of personality, and identity, and is not only a generalized statement(allowing for the fact that not everyone necessarily conforms to this tendency), but such a tendency is also well documented in science.
On the flip side, pigeonholing is trying to place entities that have little in common into neat little categorical boxes based on shared traits.
to say "you put your dick into another dude once, therefore you're clearly gay" is pigeonholing. Saying that "people have a tendency to rationalize behaviors that do not conform with their identity and sense of self" is clearly not.
and if you can't see a difference, you're intentionally being dense.