The Sex Thread 2: Because Two Hands Are Better Than One
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What we did, when we were in a position with a creaky and uncomfortable bed, was pile up all the bedclothes (comforters/duvets and pillows especially) on the floor and had sex on those. It's not as uncomfortable as it sounds, as long as you aren't putting all your weight on your knees. If she really prefers the doggy angle, fair enough, but facing each other tends to be a lot easier in every other way, so it's worth a try.
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I like doggy. It really is a good angle. Don't just assume she's being untruthful, that sounds like a bad idea.
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I didn't mean it like that. I know she isn't lying to me, but I was just saying there might be a bit of a ubconconcious prefeernce based on the fake she didn't like to face the guy during. Maybe her body has just gotten used to doing it that way, whether it be physically or mentally, and that is factoring in without her realizing. It doesn't really matter that much. I just thought it might shed some light on why it went that way.
But I have read online that it can be one of the best angles for hitting the G Spot, so it could really be 100% that. I don't know. But what I do know, is I don't like it when I don't get to see her face. I feel so lonely and detached. I don't like it. At least, not at this phase.
But I have read online that it can be one of the best angles for hitting the G Spot, so it could really be 100% that. I don't know. But what I do know, is I don't like it when I don't get to see her face. I feel so lonely and detached. I don't like it. At least, not at this phase.
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Sieg Reyu wrote:But I have read online that it can be one of the best angles for hitting the G Spot, so it could really be 100% that.
This will be the reason why she likes it. Don't over-think it.
Doggy style is actually my favourite position, simply because I think it feels better than any other.
And as IX said, if it doesn't work to do missionary on the bed, but you want more intimacy by facing each other, then try finding different ways, like a pile of clothes on the floor, etc. See what you have available when you next decide to get hanky-panky!
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Okay, now that I don't need to keep on hand on the charger to prevent the computer from turning off, I'd want to give a more detailed answer, but I'm afraid other people have covered that already.
Wearing a condom while jerking off so you can get used to the feeling is a good idea, it does help some people. If you can afford it, you can also invest in masturbatory sleeves, which are designed to be closer to a real sensation, and don't provide as much of a grip.
To answer the question about death grip, well people have different amounts of sensitivity and tolerance both. Some will be wiling to go harder because it feels better to them, but as their body gets used to it they go harder and harder and need more and more pressure. It's revertible, though.
Other people just keep a light touch and or slower pace and are fine. I've seen both. Some people need to go super fast to finish, some stay slow from beginning to end.
About positions, it's really a matter of personal taste, and of both your anatomies as well. Doggy style was my first position having intercourse in, and it did nothing for me. For the next 5 years I barely ever did it in that position and never really enjoyed it.
Now I enjoy it on occasion, but only if I'm feeling submissive, as I usually prefer being more in control. It generally feels less good for me due to less rubbing or the clitoris. For other women, it feels better due to G-spot stimulation. Depends on how she's shaped and how you're shaped. And of course there are the mental preferences that will influence how aroused you both are, which will make it more or less pleasurable.
Good luck trying other positions. I'm with you, I like seeing each other's faces, hugging, kissing, etc.
Wearing a condom while jerking off so you can get used to the feeling is a good idea, it does help some people. If you can afford it, you can also invest in masturbatory sleeves, which are designed to be closer to a real sensation, and don't provide as much of a grip.
To answer the question about death grip, well people have different amounts of sensitivity and tolerance both. Some will be wiling to go harder because it feels better to them, but as their body gets used to it they go harder and harder and need more and more pressure. It's revertible, though.
Other people just keep a light touch and or slower pace and are fine. I've seen both. Some people need to go super fast to finish, some stay slow from beginning to end.
About positions, it's really a matter of personal taste, and of both your anatomies as well. Doggy style was my first position having intercourse in, and it did nothing for me. For the next 5 years I barely ever did it in that position and never really enjoyed it.
Now I enjoy it on occasion, but only if I'm feeling submissive, as I usually prefer being more in control. It generally feels less good for me due to less rubbing or the clitoris. For other women, it feels better due to G-spot stimulation. Depends on how she's shaped and how you're shaped. And of course there are the mental preferences that will influence how aroused you both are, which will make it more or less pleasurable.
Good luck trying other positions. I'm with you, I like seeing each other's faces, hugging, kissing, etc.
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Sieg Reyu wrote:But what I do know, is I don't like it when I don't get to see her face. I feel so lonely and detached. I don't like it. At least, not at this phase.
Tell her this part.
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Elomin Sha wrote:Skamakazi wrote:EDIT: Also, I know this is an INCREDIBLY intimate question but for doggy were you thrusting or was she moving back onto you?
There was a leash, a world heritage site and a park warden involved.
Kinda figured that was assumed..
Reason I asked was it is often easier to come when you're in control of the sexual tempo.
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Skamakazi wrote:Elomin Sha wrote:Skamakazi wrote:EDIT: Also, I know this is an INCREDIBLY intimate question but for doggy were you thrusting or was she moving back onto you?
There was a leash, a world heritage site and a park warden involved.
Kinda figured that was assumed..
Reason I asked was it is often easier to come when you're in control of the sexual tempo.
OH rright, forgot to answer this one. A bit of both, really. That seemed to work pretty well for her.
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Oh, forgot to add: if you get soft while doggy-style, you can pull out, and she can jerk you off between her legs. If she'll like me, it will end up giving her stimulation as well, and then you can get hard enough to keep going.
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I'm not saying I've had a good weekend, but I AM saying Tide stain pens work pretty well on sex stains.
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Okay.
I'm really worried about having sex. I know it's not going to be magical and it'll probably suck for the first few times, but that's not why.
It's because I hate the idea of orgasms. The concept just fills me with disgust and I'm just terrified that when the time comes (which won't be for a while) I'll just hate it and end up freaking out or whatever.
I've considered masterbating to try and get used to it, but... I just can't. It just seems horrible.
Bleh. Not sure why I'm posting this, I know it's meant to feel good, I just... I don't know. Im just worried that I'll end up making my future wife feel bad because of it,
Sorry for the ramble.
I'm really worried about having sex. I know it's not going to be magical and it'll probably suck for the first few times, but that's not why.
It's because I hate the idea of orgasms. The concept just fills me with disgust and I'm just terrified that when the time comes (which won't be for a while) I'll just hate it and end up freaking out or whatever.
I've considered masterbating to try and get used to it, but... I just can't. It just seems horrible.
Bleh. Not sure why I'm posting this, I know it's meant to feel good, I just... I don't know. Im just worried that I'll end up making my future wife feel bad because of it,
Sorry for the ramble.
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Well, do you actually want to have sex? If you don't, you probably shouldn't.
Which reminds me, there is a dating site for people who can't have sex. I assume it would work equally well for people who don't want to.
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Orgasms are inherently messy for guys, yes, but disgusting? Maybe if you're really anti-all-fluids. It is kind of gross, but I can assure you the sensation far outweighs the negative factor. You haven't really masturbated? I presume you've still gotten hard. If you get the chance, just try playing with yourself a bit, maybe? You don't have to go for orgasm, so don't worry about that, just see how it feels. Get more comfortable with yourself, and maybe you can work up to it. I know it may seem gross, and you're worried. That's okay. It really is just a matter of practice and experience.
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Do I want to have sex? Yes. Most of the time. I really like the idea of being intimate with my girlfriend, and while I know that that's not just sex, it is a part. I do want to, just without the mess.
And Fayili... That's a good idea. I don't know why I was seeing it as an all or nothing thing before.
And Fayili... That's a good idea. I don't know why I was seeing it as an all or nothing thing before.
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Would using a condom make you feel better? It makes it less messy, you throw away the condom, wipe off and here you go. But sex is inherently messy, so I guess that could be a problem.
I'd try masturbating with a condom on if you're planning to finish, and seeing if you find it less gross, so that you're more prepared if you meet someone. Otherwise, you could have sex without coming, that's possible, you just need to make sure your partner understands and doesn't think it means she's not good enough.
I'd try masturbating with a condom on if you're planning to finish, and seeing if you find it less gross, so that you're more prepared if you meet someone. Otherwise, you could have sex without coming, that's possible, you just need to make sure your partner understands and doesn't think it means she's not good enough.
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Avistew wrote: Otherwise, you could have sex without coming, that's possible, you just need to make sure your partner understands and doesn't think it means she's not good enough.
This. Despite the importance we place on orgasms (granted, they feel pretty damned good), you can have a LOT of fun without climaxing.
Have you ever had an orgasm (outside of a nocturnal emission), logicsword? Because it's really not that bad as far as mess goes, some tissue and a little wiping up and you're good to go. Maybe you could give us a little more about what squicks you out about orgasms, it would make giving advice a little easier.
Some starting points:
-does it feel wrong?
-are you more worried about the sensation or the ejaculation?
-what are your expectations from an orgasm?
-do erotic thoughts and/or sexual pleasure (meaning genital stimulation of any sort) bother you?
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I've had nocturnal emissions, yeah, and I usually wake up straight after, or so it seems, so I'm just kind of lying there and it being all... sticky and is just makes me want to go shower immediately.
Feel wrong? In what way? I'm objective/scientifically minded enough to know that it's completely natural and not wrong at all, if that's what you mean.
I'm more worried about the ejaculation rather than the sensation.
I don't really know what I expect from an orgasm. Ejaculation and a nice feeling, I guess.
Getting sexual pleasure, even from just kissing does bother me most of the time. It just makes me feel really uncomfortable. Saying that I do get turned on by my girlfriend and I know I'm sexually attracted to her so... I don't know.
I know I'm at least demi-sexual, I just worry that I'm fully asexual.
Feel wrong? In what way? I'm objective/scientifically minded enough to know that it's completely natural and not wrong at all, if that's what you mean.
I'm more worried about the ejaculation rather than the sensation.
I don't really know what I expect from an orgasm. Ejaculation and a nice feeling, I guess.
Getting sexual pleasure, even from just kissing does bother me most of the time. It just makes me feel really uncomfortable. Saying that I do get turned on by my girlfriend and I know I'm sexually attracted to her so... I don't know.
I know I'm at least demi-sexual, I just worry that I'm fully asexual.
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If you want to have sex and you're able to be attracted to people in that way, I wouldn't think you're asexual. Most aces I know don't want to have sex at all. You want to but wish you didn't ejaculate.
If what bothers you is the ejaculation, you could see if you can get dry orgasms. Some guys can, some can't. If you have any interest in anal play, you could also see if you can come from there, which can be dry orgasms (although sometimes you end up ejaculating seminal fluid instead. Even if you're soft at the time.)
I think of asexuality of an orientation thing. So being attracted to someone, you have an orientation other than ace, to me. However, you have things that gross you out. Well, everyone does, to some extent, you just get grosses out by things many people aren't grossed out by. Maybe you're a bit OCD about body fluids or something?
Does the idea of her secretions gross you out, as well, or just your own?
Sex is messy, ejaculation or not. There is wetness, and pre-cum, and sometimes lube. It it's a hygiene thing, you could be doing things in the shower, or in the bathroom close to the shower and see if that helps.
When you come at night, you can't control it and plan for it. It ends up wherever and you wake up with a mess. I would think that if you have more control over it, can come inside something, can be in a place where it's easy to clean, it might feel better.
In the end, make sure you know what does make you comfortable. If kisses don't, what about snuggles? What bothers you with kisses, is it the saliva, another fluid? Or is it more about the intimacy and the feelings that come with it?
It can be tricky to figure out ourselves, what we like, what we don't like, what our limits are. Sometimes we get aroused by things that also gross us out. Sometimes we have hard limits that everyone else seems to have no problem with, or we're fine with something other people seem to think is crazy. That's okay. You'll figure out a way and I would urge you not to stress out too much about it.
You're worried you might be this and that... But there is really no need to conform. There isn't, a "right" way to be and everything else is broken. Everybody is different when it comes to sex, and people can even change over time.
It's possible that you just have the preconception that sex in general is dirty, but since you also want it that puts you in a weird place. In the end, I'm sure you'll figure it out, though
If what bothers you is the ejaculation, you could see if you can get dry orgasms. Some guys can, some can't. If you have any interest in anal play, you could also see if you can come from there, which can be dry orgasms (although sometimes you end up ejaculating seminal fluid instead. Even if you're soft at the time.)
I think of asexuality of an orientation thing. So being attracted to someone, you have an orientation other than ace, to me. However, you have things that gross you out. Well, everyone does, to some extent, you just get grosses out by things many people aren't grossed out by. Maybe you're a bit OCD about body fluids or something?
Does the idea of her secretions gross you out, as well, or just your own?
Sex is messy, ejaculation or not. There is wetness, and pre-cum, and sometimes lube. It it's a hygiene thing, you could be doing things in the shower, or in the bathroom close to the shower and see if that helps.
When you come at night, you can't control it and plan for it. It ends up wherever and you wake up with a mess. I would think that if you have more control over it, can come inside something, can be in a place where it's easy to clean, it might feel better.
In the end, make sure you know what does make you comfortable. If kisses don't, what about snuggles? What bothers you with kisses, is it the saliva, another fluid? Or is it more about the intimacy and the feelings that come with it?
It can be tricky to figure out ourselves, what we like, what we don't like, what our limits are. Sometimes we get aroused by things that also gross us out. Sometimes we have hard limits that everyone else seems to have no problem with, or we're fine with something other people seem to think is crazy. That's okay. You'll figure out a way and I would urge you not to stress out too much about it.
You're worried you might be this and that... But there is really no need to conform. There isn't, a "right" way to be and everything else is broken. Everybody is different when it comes to sex, and people can even change over time.
It's possible that you just have the preconception that sex in general is dirty, but since you also want it that puts you in a weird place. In the end, I'm sure you'll figure it out, though
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Also, you talked about your wet dreams bothering you? I know a guy who used to have them regularly until he started masturbating on a regular basis. Cut WAY down on the number of times he woke up with his sheets messy. So masturbating might actually help you lessen the mess.
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Yes, definitely my thoughts, too. And this way it would be planned rather than be a surprise.
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I really like turning her on, and I like the idea of making her orgasm, it's just me I'm weird about.
And with kisses it's when it gets... passionate and it's the feelings more than anything else. Snuggles are always good.
I'm still trying to... build myself up to masturbation. No idea why I'm so nervous about the concept but there we go. Thanks for all the suggestions/support
And with kisses it's when it gets... passionate and it's the feelings more than anything else. Snuggles are always good.
I'm still trying to... build myself up to masturbation. No idea why I'm so nervous about the concept but there we go. Thanks for all the suggestions/support
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*swoops in* Just wanted to add that there are so many different varieties of asexual people, so you could maybe look into that.
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