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Yeah, he might be blowing this out of proportion.

Could be worse. He could be a stamp collector.

I really want to form a sentence around the concept of sticking a pin in his aspirations, a frame of mind that I whole-heartedly blame on bebop.

Teehee!

Hepheastus wrote:We all know who made you think of chocolate

Bebop and chocolate go hand in hand nom nom nom

So....no help. Haha.

I've heard of that/similar kinks before. Never quite got it myself, though, so I got nothing.

There's a specific artist on Slipshine that seems to draw stuff that would appeal to that, but all of their comics pretty much turn me entirely off. Sorry. :/

Sorry Laurnil, I have a default mode of being sardonically facetious.

Have you tried switching it up in bed? Varying positions, oral, mutual masturbation, introducing 'personal massagers' during sex etc.?

Yep, we've tried. He's never gotten off with a woman. Only when he masturbates to things involving this particular kink. I wouldn't call it porn, per se, but like porn.

I was right. It was stamp collecting. Field trip to the local post office!

Hmm I would say that if it's making you sad then you have your answer. I mean the situation obviously sucks, you like the guy and care for him but if you can never perform the thing that will get him off then that will leave both of you unsatisfied which is probably not what you want from the relationship. Then again I've had a shitty day and am in a bad mood so maybe my advise isn't the best right now

I guess my problem is that he's really sweet and I like him a lot and simply don't want to be that bitch that breaks up with a guy because the sex is bad. Then again, I don't want to have a sexless relationship.

You're not being a bitch if there is a legitimate conflict of interest in what you both want

Lauranil, seems to me like the fact that he can't cum is got to do with him, not you. My boyfriend had a similar problem when we started having sex (he had never had sex previously), and he did some research and found out it was because the frequency that he was masturbating was desensitizing him so that he couldn't cum to vaginal sex. He had to stop masturbating as often before he actually could; maybe if your partner stopped masturbating to that very specific stimulus, or at least not as often, he might find sex with an actual woman more satisfying? And if he's not up for that, or doesn't think he can, then I'd say that would be a deal breaker. But if you do want to try to make things work, I'd definitely talk to him about it first.

Also hi sex thread nice to meet you. /returns to the lurking shadows

keenersmash wrote:Lauranil, seems to me like the fact that he can't cum is got to do with him, not you. My boyfriend had a similar problem when we started having sex (he had never had sex previously), and he did some research and found out it was because the frequency that he was masturbating was desensitizing him so that he couldn't cum to vaginal sex. He had to stop masturbating as often before he actually could; maybe if your partner stopped masturbating to that very specific stimulus, or at least not as often, he might find sex with an actual woman more satisfying? And if he's not up for that, or doesn't think he can, then I'd say that would be a deal breaker. But if you do want to try to make things work, I'd definitely talk to him about it first.

Also hi sex thread nice to meet you. /returns to the lurking shadows

Super helpful! I do need to talk to him. I feel a little bad talking to strangers on the internet about it.

Strangers? Us?

Lets be honest Sha, we ain't exactly the least strange occupants of this planet.

Laurnil, perhaps go see a couples sex therapist? I know you don't exactly live in the most sex-positive area of the US, but such people still may exist, just be sure to research their qualifications before handing any money over.

Dude....that shit costs money...and a lot of it.

While I know you, Elomin and Ptangmatik, this information is kind of out in the open for any number of forum members that I don't know to look at and comment about.

Now I don't feel so special.

Laurnil wrote:

keenersmash wrote:Lauranil, seems to me like the fact that he can't cum is got to do with him, not you. My boyfriend had a similar problem when we started having sex (he had never had sex previously), and he did some research and found out it was because the frequency that he was masturbating was desensitizing him so that he couldn't cum to vaginal sex. He had to stop masturbating as often before he actually could; maybe if your partner stopped masturbating to that very specific stimulus, or at least not as often, he might find sex with an actual woman more satisfying? And if he's not up for that, or doesn't think he can, then I'd say that would be a deal breaker. But if you do want to try to make things work, I'd definitely talk to him about it first.

Also hi sex thread nice to meet you. /returns to the lurking shadows

Super helpful! I do need to talk to him. I feel a little bad talking to strangers on the internet about it.

Haha glad I could help! And hey, sometimes it's just nice to hear you're not the only one with a problem; makes you feel like you're not suffering alone, and that something can be done about it. And trust me, I understand the feeling of blaming yourself for this, too. I did the same thing when my boyfriend was having this issue. It's hard not to feel that way in this sort of situation, especially for me since I wasn't that experienced at the time either.

Reminds me vaguely of this Cracked article from a while back

Laurnil wrote:Dude....that shit costs money...and a lot of it.

While I know you, Elomin and Ptangmatik, this information is kind of out in the open for any number of forum members that I don't know to look at and comment about.

My apologies if I made you uncomfortable

Who are you apologising to Heph? Me? Cos it's about damn time, now put away your nipples and get out of my garden.

You know full well you invited me Ptang