The depressing depression thread

[Rikadyn]

[MetricFurlong]

That is people being short-sighted and not thinking before they speak. The correct answer to someone having issues isn't "But I can do it!" because that's just kicking someone who's already down. It's great that these people have relationships, but when someone else is talking about wanting one, or that they're lonely, is NOT the time to bring it up. But for some reason it seems that people often forget that and think that their positive example will bring motivation, or inspiration, or joy, or I don't know.

That said, they're not trying to be malicious. In a word they're simply being idiots. I know that might very likely not make you feel better, but it's an important distinction to make.

Mid-February is generally not going to be an ideal time to talk about it either. Everyone and their dog is talking about this, which it makes it hard to distinguish cases where this is part of serious mental pain from general grousing, especially when it's between faceless strangers. That the topic is going to be on everyone's minds also makes conversation drift more likely, which seems to have happened here to an extent.

i know, i don't harbor any real ill feelings towards anyone, but doesn't change the feeling of being kicked in the ribs.

Yeah, it's always the way sadly. Similar to how someone knocking you to the ground still hurts regardless of whether it was accidental or deliberate.

Sorta like right now it's 2am and after forcing myself to stay awake 2days I woke back up after just after sleeping for 2 hours and get to suffer through another night of crying fits alone

If this is what your sleeping pattern is like, I would suggest you try and get some help about it. Heavy sleep-dep wrecks mental states, and when your mental state isn't great in the first place things can get very uncomfortable.
Of course, being aware of that just makes it worse, since nothing ruins sleep faster than thinking 'I really need to get to sleep'.

[Danielle Pepin]

When I was at my own lowest point I felt a slight bit less horrible to know that things can get better from hearing of others that were previously going through what I was going through at the time. In a way it helped me start to counter the negative cycling thoughts that told me there was no point to anything...which worked some days more than others.
*Has flashback of some of the family especially the outgoing morning people making me want to stay in my room instead of facing any of them.*

[Danielle Pepin]

If this is what your sleeping pattern is like, I would suggest you try and get some help about it. Heavy sleep-dep wrecks mental states, and when your mental state isn't great in the first place things can get very uncomfortable.
Of course, being aware of that just makes it worse, since nothing ruins sleep faster than thinking 'I really need to get to sleep'.

Something that I came across just recently seems to work for getting to sleep faster (may not get dreams but at least will force the brain to slow the breathing). Breath in for a count to 4 (deep into the abs), hold it while counting to 7, then exhale while counting to 8 and repeat that pattern until sleep happens.

[Elomin Sha]

Isn't that oxygen deprevation causing you to pass out?

[Danielle Pepin]

Isn't that oxygen deprevation causing you to pass out?

...I'm not suggesting holding it long enough to starve a brain, just to coax it into taking in more oxygen when it does intake.

[Elomin Sha]

I feel like I'm getting light headed.

[Danielle Pepin]

Better results if done in a horizontal position.

[Rikadyn]

[Rikadyn]

[Elomin Sha]

In pain.

[Ptangmatik]

Well, I'm out of a job.
Fuck
My boss just told me that he has too many debts to afford to keep employing me, my one co-worker, or continue renting the office.
Fuck
I was really enjoying full time employment. The work coming in had been rather slack recently, so I'd been doing a bunch of SEO, which kinda sucked, but I was enjoying editing when it needed doing. I was getting worried that the work was too sporadic for the last few months.
Fuck
I know the most important thing to do is to get back out there quick and get another job. I have social anxiety, which crops up in the weirdest places I suck at interviews for one. It either makes me clam up or come across as a arsehole as I try to laugh off my stammering.
Fuck
I don't want to go back on the sodding dole.
Fuck
My boss has told me that he's happy to give me whatever excellent reference I want, and hopefully when work picks up a bit, he may be able to take me back on (in around 1 to 2 years). I'm not even sure what my job title is, scientific journal article editor? Science editor?

[Jamfalcon]

Sorry to hear that, Ptang. Hope you can find something without too much hassle!

[BlueChloroplast]

Scientific journal article editor sounds like a good job title to me. For interviews you can do a mock interview with people you know. As well I would suggest bringing a letter (disclosure statement) explaining that you have social anxiety and for them to understand that is the reason for your behavior. I have done this for my co-op interviews and it really helped, the interviewers were understanding and gave me the extra time I needed to answer questions.

[Lord Chrusher]

What sort of editor are you? Academic publishing has several sorts of editors.

[Ptangmatik]

I've done medical, biology, a few engineering subjects and sociology. Also many papers prior to submission to journals in all kinds of stuff.

[Dutch guy]

About job interviews: be prepared. Some questions come up pretty much every interview and you should have a ready made and compelling answer to them. Questions like name 3 good and 3 bad aspects of yourself. Or why do you want to work for us. Or (often not as explicitly stated) what sets you apart from your coworkers and other applicants. Ill try to get a bit of a longer post in when im not typing on my phone

[Rikadyn]

[AdmiralMemo]

I need to find me a wall and bash my head into it till thinking stops

I know that feel... *hugs* My brain gets me in so much trouble sometimes...

[Danielle Pepin]

Instead let Alex's draw stream distract for a while...on in less than 20 min provided the stream works on time: http://www.twitch.tv/voxlunch

[King Kool]

I've been in a real funk lately. I've been working on a writing project that has dragged on WAY too long, but I'm close to being finished. I'm trying to work out the end, and I just get frustrated. If I work on something else, I feel like I'm not doing what I should be.

I'm at my unhappiest when I want to do something creative, but can't for some reason. Sometimes, I just haven't found the thing I really want to do at that moment, or sometimes I just feel like I "need" to be working on something else, but my mind is inspired to do something different.

Last night, I started going back through the story from the very beginning and gently tweaking some of the stuff from the start (some of this stuff was written YEARS ago now. I am a very enthusiastic, but also a very slow writer). I've been changing some little things, adjusting things that I now see as out-of-character for the characters in it. I don't really write in drafts: if I had to write another draft of anything, I'd just never get the second draft done because I write so slowly and carefully, I'm usually satisfied with the "first" draft.

I've only gone through the first twelve or so pages, but... MAN. It feels SO GOOD. It's such a relief.

I don't often have good news for this thread, so I thought I'd share that. I have good days and bad, and today has wound up being OK.

[Deedles]

I wish I was better at this whole 'friend making' malarkey, but I seem to have issues getting involved and feeling... Pleh.

[fantôme]

Sometimes trying to make friends is like stumbling blind drunk through a dark room full of precariously perched pricesless vases.

[AdmiralMemo]

I just about want to put a bullet through my skull to get away from stupid people... Either that or put bullets through their skulls...

[My pseudonym is Ix]

'Sup guys?