The depressing depression thread

[Jamfalcon]

I'll keep that in mind! Hope it goes as smoothly as possible.

[JustAName]

Best of luck, Hosk. We're all rooting for you! <3

[hacofo]

Best of Luck to you Hosk.
Hope it works out well.

[Bebop Man]

Just saw Star Wars 7.
I choose to post that here, of all threads.

[Jamfalcon]

Just saw Star Wars 7.
I choose to post that here, of all threads.

Uh-oh.

[Deedles]

Next week I will be going off my anti-depressants with the support and knowledge of my medical providers and family.

Please please please, keep and eye on me for the next month or so and if you see some strange things please say something to me, to @lady_hosk on twitter, some place.

Thanks I love you guys.

Keeping my fingers and toes crossed! <3

[Bebop Man]

Just saw Star Wars 7.
I choose to post that here, of all threads.

Uh-oh.

It's not a bad movie, but as a fan... I dunno. Maybe I shouldn't feel this protective about fictional characters.

[korvys]

An internet friend I've become antiquated with, and met once at a con, tried to commit suicide recently. She's now on meds, but is still struggling.

I'm not really looking for advise on how to help her; She's doing what she can, and I've done what I can. It's just really kinda crushing to see someone in pain and not be able to do anything for them.

[Merrymaker_Mortalis]

Trying to get into the Christmas "mood" and I am finding it challenging.

[MrL]

As am I.
I just got laid off from my work, I didn't really like it there and had thought about quitting but a job is a job even if I don't like it.
Now I just feel conflicted about if I should be sad or not...

Also I just moved and lost my meds so that was a rough couple of days...

[Merrymaker_Mortalis]

I have no work.

[AdmiralMemo]

Right about now, I'm questioning why I must be a physical being.

[Merrymaker_Mortalis]

My mum and dad bought me a Diary for 2016.
Diaries are useless for me. I forget to open them up and look at them. I prefer wall-charts and wall calendars for planning.

So, I wanted to make use for this useless gift (putting it bluntly).

I decided I would use it to record happy things that happen across the next year. A way to hack my brain to be more positive. There has been moments in my life I had had sustained contentedness, so it is possible. So more of a diary for remembrance rather than time keeping.

I painted smiley faces on the front to make it nicer. The geometry is cool, but the whole thing is quite... bleak looking for the intent.



I lose sight of the joys in my life and I home in the things that distress me or worry me. I hope this will help me.

[Avistew]

That sounds like a great idea! I think I may purchase a "happy journal" for myself too. Write down happy things I witness or think about, and personal victories or successes. I think it's so easy to get hung up on the negatives, but if you stop to write the positive things you'll forget them less, especially if when you're feeling down you can go back and look at them.

[Merrymaker_Mortalis]

I've already written down things for birth dates of people who matter greatly to me. e.g. "Abel was born 37 years ago".

[Deedles]

Goddamnit, I just want to draw... can you leave me the fuck alone for 5 seconds, brain? Can you please stop making me feel like shit? kthxbai...

[Merrymaker_Mortalis]

Goddamnit, I just want to draw... can you leave me the fuck alone for 5 seconds, brain? Can you please stop making me feel like shit? kthxbai...

Look at pictures you like. Colours. Shapes. Textures. Memories. Associations etc..

[Merrymaker_Mortalis]

A difficulty I have is that I ask "So what now?"

I had an awesome evening in church. I'm now at home. "What now?"
I don't have anything to look forward to this evening or tomorrow. I don't have anything in the future to look forward to. I have living and stuff to do for the time being. And that should be awesome, yet I am looking for something to look forward to.

I guess since I have no job, I have no "holiday days" to look forward to.

My future is a mystery, and for me, that is not exciting or enjoyable.

It's hard for me to be grateful for what I have. I can only see what I have lost.

[AdmiralMemo]

I question whether I'm a bad person...

So, there are times where I'll see a person in a situation. I don't know how they got in the situation. They may have put themselves in the situation or someone else may have put them in it. All I know is that I didn't put them in the situation. The situation may end up just fine, but extrapolating from probability, it's very likely that they will end up being hurt. I could take an action that costs me nothing, and has about equal probability of either helping, doing nothing, or making things worse.

My question is whether I'm a bad person if I decide to do nothing because I simply don't care enough about them to do anything.

And then, subsequently, I wonder if I am a bad person if I watch the situation develop, see them get hurt, and am like "That's a shame" and then go away, still doing nothing.

[Bebop Man]

My question is whether I'm a bad person if I decide to do nothing because I simply don't care enough about them to do anything.

The saying goes "All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing".

[AdmiralMemo]

So you're saying I am a bad person for not caring and not doing anything, then?

Well, thanks for the confirmation at least.

[hacofo]

Wow, that's a deep philosophical (and loaded) question.

If it's a 3 way tie between all outcomes, your inaction is pretty neutral.
If it's more likely that you prevent serious harm than cause additional one, the neutrality could be drawn into question.

But:
If you were not asked for help or your opinion, the neutrality might stand.

For my part I'm the person who sometimes gets blamed because I try to help and well sometimes it just doesn't work out.
So I tried to answer more objective than I would judge my own.

[Avistew]

I don't think putting it in terms of being fundamentally a bad person is the right way to go. I think you should think about it in terms of "is this specific decision a bad decision?". And obviously it depends on the decision.

Phrased how you did, with equal chances of making it worse, better, or accomplishing nothing, lack of action seems to me like the most reasonable choice.

[Deedles]

Yeah, I think Avistew really has the right of it. Generalizing all decisions of that nature is really inaccurate, so it's better to take each individual decision as they come instead.

Considering how you describe the situation I also agree with the two above me, it seems pretty neutral.

[Bebop Man]

So you're saying I am a bad person for not caring and not doing anything, then?

Well, thanks for the confirmation at least.

No, that was Edmund Burke.
And it was meant as comfort, not chastisement. We're all fundamentally good; if anything, it's the inaction that is bad.