tak197 wrote:Brad, the babysitter doesn't count.
Also, from what I've seen, 98% of relationships started in high school DON'T WORK OUT. Wait until college, and you have a better shot at finding a suitable facsimile to "true love".
I know you are trying to give good advice, but I however have a
huge problem with the
"Wait until college" mantra.
When I was in late Highschool I had quite some difficulty like many others, but I was usually reassured with that kind of advice and bought into it. I actually had a few chances in HS that I pretty much passed up since I didn't try hard enough and kinda assumed that it was not worth the effort and possible drama.
Lets just say, I have regretted that decision ever since, and even moreso the older I get. Which segways into this point:
masamune wrote:girls older or my age are looking for careers or family.
The problem I found in my college time was that I was always having to deal with stuff that was never on my mind back in HS like putting up with asshole roomates, rent, balancing a part-time job & school , money problems, money money money, insomnia, and the bullshit of living in a big city. Even when I finally got a girlfriend the relationship was pretty much ruined by all these things (and also since she was way too emotionally voiltile because of her past boyfriends).
The other thing is that many girls I know are already engaged and whatnot and even hearing one mention how "back then I used to get all exited and giddy when a guy liked me, now im like ' whatever' ", I mean you wait too long and less people are available and the general people get more jaded.
Yes, HS relationships are full of drama and wont last, but its better than having nothing then. Personally I would be a lot happier with those memories (even if it was short-lived) if I actually went with those girls (who are now long gone [taken) In fact, some of my friends who were in these so-called stupid HS relationships were pretty damn happy to say the least and had more time with eachother since they werent tying to balance work, Uni, and other BS.
I know saying all this probably will annoy or offend, but my experience has been far different than the advice I was told about... basically college/uni stuff isn't all rainbows and sunshine like what so many promised me which is why I was so let down when things didn't work out (or more importantly leaving out key details & disadvantages). Also even more contrary to the advice I haven't truthfully fallen in love since I was 17 which was 7 bloody years ago. Ugh, I need a beer.. oh wait I developed a allergy to hops within the last 2 years..
FUCK