Digital Dolphin wrote:I'm not skinny, but I'm quite geek/nerd inclined. I'd love to find a nice geek girl that wasn't completely insane (in bad ways).
@thatlaurachick: I find the same problem with most geek girls. They don't seem to figure out what is important in a relationship until they've been screwed over a few times and realize that a cute ass and asshole personality aren't all they're cracked up to be if there's nothing else there in the person.
This started out as a much grumpier post, but I thought better of it. One sentence from the earlier draft needs to remain, though:
I'm a single geek girl and believe me, most geek guys out there are pickier than they think.
I'm not saying geek guys are too picky. PERISH THE THOUGHT. But a significant number of geek guys seem to think (or inadvertently imply through their statements) that all they need to be happy is for ANY geek girl to like them, and that's typically just not the case. I don't know many single geek guys past their mid 20s who haven't turned down several geek girls.
Now to be entirely fair, going in to college I had the same mindset. I thought "I'm going to fall into blissful luuuuurve with the first smart guy who likes me." Turns out the first guy who liked me was a guy I... just wasn't attracted to. Gasp! It happens, sure, but I didn't realize it happened and it hadn't happened to me before. I felt a little guilty, honestly.
The thing is, a lot of geek guys want and obsess over the stereotypical "cute" geek girl, while ignoring her saner friends. In high school I was a member of an anime club composed of eight geeky girls, all obsessed with science fiction and video games, and I will tell you one thing: the hottest girl was completely, totally, batshit insane and she went on more dates than all the rest of us combined. She wasn't even the only cute girl in the group - she was just the girl most prone to wearing low-cut shirts and ass jeans. Let's just say girls aren't the only ones who often choose hot assholes over less-hot nice people. In fact, a lot of guys straight-out admit to this, going on and on about the virtues of sex with crazy girls. I guess what I'm saying is this: whenever a guy complains that all the girls he has liked or dated were crazy, I think it has more to do with his particular taste in girls than it has to do with the female population as a whole.
Also, as a girl who recently dated a cute guy who was a self-proclaimed asshole: he asked me out. He was nice to me. We had chemistry. That's really all I expect. I've had chemistry with tons of nice guys. None of them have asked me out, though, and I haven't had any luck asking them out recently, either. Sometimes the reason a girl is with an apparent asshole is that they're nicer behind the scenes and that girl is taking what she can get, having fun while it lasts, whatever you want to call it. I didn't like the guy just because he was physically attractive, I liked him because he was funny and smart and LIKED ME. When you see him driving 'round town with the girl you love, consider this: maybe she likes him for some reason other than hotness.
Also, the hot guy I liked thought he was unattractive and when we were just starting to flirt he would constantly tell stories about how hot, jockish assholes stole the girls HE liked in the past. Everything's on a sliding scale.