auberginequeen wrote:I'm gone-bunburying on Skype.
(Fantastic reference.)
auberginequeen wrote:I'm gone-bunburying on Skype.
Honestly I agree with you. She was kind of a jerk in a lot of ways but I ignored that because when she isn't acting that way, she can be a very good person. That probably was a mistake to ignore those jerk things for so long.Bebop Man wrote:Forgive the brashness Aero but she sounds like she was an asshole about feelings and commitment and you're way better off without her. The more you try to understand how some people can be the way they are, the more frustrating the whole thing will be for you. Look at it this way, you didn't waste any more time with her and now you're free to find a person who will actually appreciate you and value you.
I can definitely see how it can seem like that and I'd probably think the same thing, but honestly I don't think it was that deep to her. From my understanding the cheating happened before he passed away. I believe everything she did was just for instant gratification and as she said she only lives in moments. I have a real difficulty viewing things from that perspective and I really can't imagine being happy living that way.auberginequeen wrote:It's probably not my place to say this but it sounds like she lost interest in you a while back but was motivated for some reason to keep it going. If I were to hazard a guess, it would be that she felt obligated to stay because you needed someone so desperately after the death of your grandfather. It's hard to turn away from someone in their time of need, regardless of how you feel about them. Another possibility is she didn't want to hazard being on her own back then, or didn't want to give up what she thought she had even though it wasn't what she wanted anymore. It's hard to say.
Either way, doing things out of a sense of obligation, especially when you'd rather be doing something else (like dating other people), inevitably breeds resentment. You almost always end up feeling trapped. It sounds like she came to resent the fact that she felt tied down to you, and so she ended up acting out against you and didn't really feel much when you found out about her infidelity because she'd already "checked out" long ago.
That's my two cents, anyway. I might be wrong, and I apologise to her for my supposition if I am. Of course, that doesn't make this your fault in the slightest but, well, I can empathize with you both. I'm sorry this happened to you; no one deserves to be treated that way. I know you're strong enough to get through it though, and if you want another person to talk to (I tend to be up late into the night), I'm gone-bunburying on Skype.
Twitter | Click here to join the Desert Bus Community Chat.TheRocket wrote:Apparently the crotch area could not contain the badonkadonk area.
Twitter | Click here to join the Desert Bus Community Chat.TheRocket wrote:Apparently the crotch area could not contain the badonkadonk area.
Avistew wrote:I have no clue who Jaina and Tenel Ka are. Real people? Fictional characters?
At any rate, good luck with your problem, Elomin.
Fezzul wrote:I have coffee dates with three girls via OkCupid. This feels weird, but cool at the same time. We'll see what happens.
Geoff_B wrote: ... Even for here, that was weird.
Ptangmatik wrote:or INCREDIBLY well.
Geoff_B wrote: ... Even for here, that was weird.
2stepz wrote:Just FYI for guys on OKC... Please... PLEASE... say something more than "hi" if you contact a girl. Two letter messages are just uncomfortably strange.
My pseudonym is Ix wrote:2stepz wrote:Just FYI for guys on OKC... Please... PLEASE... say something more than "hi" if you contact a girl. Two letter messages are just uncomfortably strange.
Having been shown the list of replies received by a (female) friend on Tinder, trust me- you can also do significantly worse than 'hi'.
On an unrelated note, suffering a rather painful bout of loneliness-induced angst right now. Single person's blues is depressing and sucky
Geoff_B wrote: ... Even for here, that was weird.
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