korvys wrote:The point of blocking someone is not to prevent them from seeing what you've said, but to prevent them from contacting you. That person will no longer appear in your feeds, will no longer appear in your notifications if they mention you, can no longer send you a DM. What is gained is silence.I haven't said anything really mean to her, just disagreed with her.
I could not possibly speak for Fayili, but I think if someone I considered a friend blocked me, that would be a very good indication that I have incorrectly judged the nature of our previous interactions.
Or maybe not. I'm not privy to other conversations - I don't even read most of the threads here (too much to keep up with), and certainly can't see DMs or PMs. It would certainly give me pause, though.
True, but silence that was already there. The reason I culled a ton of people from twitter was due to, no one posting/using their account anymore, useless information I did not care about, spam, spamming useless information, or grandstanding.
If anyone thinks I am picking on Fayili because she's not here, I am not. I've said pretty much the gist of what I've said in public posts here. I have also been to the point with others through out life, verbally and written. I just don't make a lot of things known.
In the past I have asked Fayili in PM/DM for advice, which I am greatful for her responses, I have also given advice too. She is always ready to give help and advice to those who need it, good person, but when there is something 'confrontational', even minor like a simple disagreement: she cannot handle it. And when it is nothing to do with her she internalises it, throws herself into the middle, and makes it about herself. It is a kind of self centred thinking that doesn't really help others or the one doing it.
Examples:
Verbatum from the previous thread this one spawned from: "I wish I could lock this thread." That really is an internal monolgue that didn't need to be written. Not constructive.
"This forum hasn't been good place for ME the last few weeks. I have to take time away."
From my one word question a full blown relevant tirade saying that we shouldn't be friends making an assumption that I would be the type of person to be mean to her LBQT friends or LBQT in general. Projecting rubbish, using friends to gain sympathy/empathy; underhanded.
If anyone wants to really go back and re-read anything I have written in the last few months. You'll see I've said nothing accusatory without citing why. I have not been outright insulting (in the case of Oda I was reflecting the stupidity of over blowing something simple with something irrelevant).
This is what I asked about being adults, I think it is safe to make a guess we are all 20+, once you get to a certain point running isn't a good idea. You've reached a point in your life where you are supposed to be mature, worldly to all things not a narrow view. I can give a few examples of myself doing this and getting better.
Not everyone is going to agree with you. Few people agree with me on certain things. If you put yourself somewhere, you have to expect to deal with what comes.
Self-indulgence: Maybe it's me, maybe I expect too much out of people. I had to grow up really early in my life, and some refuse to.